You don’t need Anybody’s Validation or Approval to be Successful
Myself and Japheth Omojuwa were both panellist at the Lofty Heights Conference 2017 last Saturday where we shared our experiences and inspired others to action.
Now let me tell you a story about me and Omojuwa that Omojuwa himself would probably not remember.
In February 2014, I was to embark on a capacity building program and needed the help of a social media strategist. I sent an email to Omojuwa asking for his help.
I never got a response.
A few days later, I sent a reminder email.
I still never got a response.
A few weeks after, I got an offer to attend the Mandela Washington Fellowship program for the same period I was to go to Colorado for the capacity building program. I decided to go for the Mandela Washington Fellowship and the rest is history.
Looking back, I honestly understand how busy Omojuwa must have been but this experience also helped shape me. It is one of the reasons I try as much as possible to respond directly to all the messages I receive as well as the comments to my post. Even at that, I am aware I can’t do it all irrespective of my good intentions.
I know how it feels to be consistently told NO, rejected and ignored but I also know what it feels like to have God show up for you!
As you start this week, remember these three things:
1. NO never kills. Instead let it propel you to greater things. Let it make you determined more than ever to succeed.
2. Never ever give up on your dreams: People are busy and may forget to respond to your messages. Many times you may even send a message to me and I don’t get to respond either because facebook chose to filter your message out, I somehow missed your messages, your message went to spam or in the most unlikely circumstances, I probably chose to ignore. Never ever be discouraged by that. Send me a reminder and refuse to give up on your plans.
3. You do not need anybody’s validation or approval: You have all you need to be outstanding in you, and the home truth is that you do not need anyone’s validation or approval to achieve success.
As you march forward with your idea, if someone out there tells you that your ideas are not the typical ones that succeed, always remind them that you are meant to stand out not fit in!