I disagree with you on a number of grounds and I want you to know morality is fluid and relative in practicality; hence, cannot stand in this context. Marriage or relationship as we know is not foreign and this is not the first time age difference in a relationship is being called to question.

The scenario you painted was just a scenario. Can it be someone else's reality? maybe, maybe not who knows? but if we are in the business of making up scenarios, not too long ago and even till now, we have celebrated monarchs get betrothed to young adult-teenagers as younger wives, because of their selfish desires…is it their selfish desires alone? Are the parents of these ladies happy to give them out? Are these young ladies happy to enter into this union?

Should we paint another scenario for those in the North? Child Marriage is still morally right for them.

Should we paint another scenario for Sugar Mamas or Ladies that prey Men for money or for material or social status? All of these are unfair dynamics bothered on the unfair balance of a societal detour from the truth.

Unless a scenario applies to you or someone you control, you are not in a position to define morality for anyone. The moment you start to point out someone else’s moral compass and doing that unfairly by judging by scenarios, you have become a lampooner; an alter existence of your own moral code.

Coming back to our context as Nigerians, people still marry young girls from the village in a pre-arranged contract by extended families. They don’t marry for control like your scenario depicts, in fact, many men try to update and upgrade their wives in urban society to be able to meet up with social standards.

Anyways, I didn’t plan to write this long, and I agree with many of your points in your article but I felt you over flogged the topic unfairly, and there’s need for more scenarios.